Advice...

It's pretty obvious that Boston's "dad" and myself do not get along. I still am resentful how he treated myself and the pregnancy of my daughter. Yesterday I took a divorced parenting class (somewhat weird since we weren't married) that was required... At first I completely dreaded spending my Saturday morning there but I found some very useful points and I love learning.

Here is the thing... It's Utah, I am the mom, we were never married... I have full legal and physical custody, She has my last name... Virginia Satir said, "Parents are teachers of human beings, not owners of human beings." I like to believe even though I have those custody's I don't own her. Boston's "dad" has around 48 hours every few months to see her and to let his family see her. I have no obligation to let him have anymore time nor his family, although I have, because I usually figure the more people that love her the better. I have offered to let him have FaceTime interaction with her as well. He has no obligation to pay anymore towards her than what is required by the state. For those of you not familiar by the child support laws it is calculated by the separated parents income. Her dad finished a trade school I subsequently have not yet fully complete my education, (I have completed my required 2,000 hours for my cosmotologist license and am a few credits away from by bachelors degree) so his income is considerably higher. I also am unable to work as often since Boston is always with me. I was made aware that fair will never be fair in both parties eyes.

The point of this is that I want YOUR opinions on what is best and fair, I am quite positive a mother and father has different views on fairness... I actually quite enjoyed this class, knowledge is power, right? I want your suggestions emailed to me at Ashlynnjbronson@hotmail.com. Don't send me an "anonymous" comment that he is stupid or I am selfish or whatever your opinion is. If you have been or seen this situation work let me know how.

I would love more than anything for my sweet baby to grow up happy and be a well adjusted adult so any advice would be welcomed. Also, keep in mind that the wounds of what the current woman in her "dads" are still fresh to me.Basically, she plays no role to me in this situation so don't give me your advice on her. More tears have been caused from her then needed to this new mama.

I mean in an ideal world Boston's "dad" and I would have fell in love, got married, had her, and lived happily ever after. But more often than not ideal worlds do not happen.

XO:
Ashlynn

How can I make this work best for Boston?