Have you ever looked in a magazine or online at a picture of a person that was posted... On this picture some people said really awesome things and tagged their friends that it reminded them of while others just tore that picture and the person in it to shreds. When that happens I normally don't pay attention to it because I'm sure they don't care about it anyways and why would they care about someone they don't even knows views.
This happened to me Sunday. To clarify I do not think I am a celeb... I'm from small town Preston, Idaho (actually not even Preston but Fairview which isn't even a town), my house was on a dirt road. I now live in Logan, Utah (still a small city) I work part time, and me and my baby just do our thing for the most part. Some random person made a meme of myself and Boston and it got spread like wildfire. I got tagged in it by people showing me random places it got shared all day one Sunday...one huge morning show host (who has 20 million followers) shared it.
Although I am humbled by it and I see the nice meaning behind it, it was made without my consent and posted everywhere without me even knowing. I have even messaged the morning show host to take it down. He has yet to respond so I just decided to give my input on the matter.
***Don't be a bully...I have seen this in my life the past while and it's disgusting. Their are a lot of forms of it... This time people I didn't even know went off saying that single moms were basically 'sluts' who shouldn't have had sex with a loser. That was delightful. I met Boston's 'dad in August and got pregnant the following June. Obviously it wasn't a random party hook up (if I don't call her 'dad a loser I would expect others to not call him that as well). People also commented saying I looked 15 and obviously that's why I was a single mom. At first that upset me but then I just realized when I am 50 I will probably look 40 and when they are 50 they will look at least that age... So, really it sucks for them not me. (Just as a disclaimer sometimes teens or casual times result it pregnancy... I promise judging them shows a lot more about you than it does them). After reading some of those comments and being pretty disgusted and offended by I thought about my own amazing dad... He would A-not get so worked up over a Facebook post B-never use such filthy and disrespectful language towards anyone and C-not be insecure that he might not get as much attention or praise as he feels he deserves on Father's Day... Even more disturbing is that the majority of the people with the vulgar and offensive remarks are parents... I pray that their children don't end up with their manners. I do give myself credit for the extra work I do for her. If you are an awesome parent that got tagged in this or showed it to an awesome parent, props to you, I'm glad you are doing your part!
***Boston was with me all day on Father's Day. Not once did I tell Boston to wish me happy Father's Day or did we buy a special present to celebrate me... We celebrated my dad, who is an amazing dad to me and the best grandpa Boston could have ever asked for. I think good dads are wonderful... Actually, I think good parents in general are wonderful. Do I think I am her father figure? No. I think she has plenty of awesome father figures in her life. I think I do a lot for her but, I also think most moms do a lot for their child. I saw a lot of idiots post that 'unless you have nuts (or other male parts) you aren't a dad'... I am sorry but that it one of the last things that makes a person a dad. Gender expectations for parents are stupid. The first time I went camping I went with my mom and I am positive a forest ranger didn't stop her and her three daughters to say, "mam, excuse me but this is actually what a dad is supposed to do not a mom". Boston and I play catch together and not one of our neighbors has ever came out and said, "please stop because that is what a dad is supposed to do". A while ago my brother-in-law did my niece, his daughters hair and seriously, you get the point, nobody made a fuss about it being the mothers job. The people commenting were insecure... (No one is trying to take their holiday away from the good dads) and idiots on what the meaning of a dad is.
So, that's my rant for today, I didn't really want to post anything about it to begin with. It wasn't something I asked for and believe me when I tell you that sometimes playing the 'single mom' role publicly I get nervous and insecure about it anyways.... To all of the awesome people who sent messages, and said awesome things about us on that... THANK YOU, I am humbled by the kindness I have seen from people. Saying something mean about someone online that you don't know isn't cool. It won't make you feel better and it actually probably hurts their feelings.
And props to ANY 'bad ass' parent, married, single, or whatever they may be. Raising a child is tough work no matter who ya are... if you know someone who fits in this category or that is even just a pretty 'bad ass' parent (since this word is being used a lot) tag them in this or share it for them!
And on that note... Happy Wednesday! Boston and I are going to go see a noon movie to make this summer cold weather a little bit more fun.
XO:
Ashlynn&Boston
BRONSON
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