cheers to GOOD friends.

Here is what I have figured out the last few years... Life is pretty short, it is pretty much a big surprise, it isn't guaranteed to anyone and so cliche but YOLO...: ya know, You Only Live Once; so make sure you are happy while you are living it. Life is way to short to not be happy and progressing and what I have especially learned is that life is too short for shitty friends (that seems a little harsh and I probably shouldn't have cursed on my blog, but oh well).

I have had bad friends and I have been guilty of being a bad friend. I have really learned that although I think it's great to know a lot of people only a few really care about you the rest are just curious. I totally get that it's normal as can be to want to be liked by as many people as possible, especially in this internet savvy era. People get a sense of satisfaction with each new 'like' they get on their social media posts. Seriously though, how many of the people who 'like' your things are people you would call in the middle of the night when a crisis erupts? Right? As I have gotten older I have finally grasped the concept of how it's not as important to have a lot of friends but rather how important it is to have good ones. One or two awesome, trustworthy, empathetic and caring friends are worth so much more than 50 artificial ones.

When I get asked to do a favor by a friend I have these two thoughts... *1 "I should do the favor for them because I hope that one day they would do a favor for me" and *2 "I should do it for them because they are a person who has done and would do a favor for me already"... The people I have the second thought for... they are gold to me.

Boston is going to get older, she is going to think I am so strange and will probably not listen to the majority of what I say. In the process of this if one of the things she learns from me is that it's okay to not be friends with some people I will feel like my job as her mom has been accomplished. Some friends make you feel inadequate, some make you feel left out, some make you feel pretty stupid, some make give you a vibe that you are being talked about, some of them make you feel as if you need to change bits of your self for their approval, some friends you know you can't trust.... and trust me when I say this; your life is going to be better with them not as your friend. Your hardest times will always expose your truest friendships. Rock bottom is always going to reveal to your who is real. I hope Boston learns that some people wont love you no matter what you do and some people wont stop loving you no matter what you do... and it would be really tiring to try to prove your worth to those who will never change their minds. Don't settle trying to be friends with someone who makes you feel less than amazing. 

To any younger girls that are reading this blog I wish I could tell you that once you are a grownup friends are friends and you don't have to worry about the BS but that isn't the case. I have seen PLENTY of grownups do very unfriendly things to their 'friends'. Find your circle you trust, when you have that make sure that not only they are a good friend to you but that you are a pretty dang good friend to them as well. 

So, if you read this and you are my friend... THANK YOU! For real, I am lucky to have some really amazing 'ride or die' people in my life and the past few years I really am so appreciative of them. So, thank you and cheers to the GOOD friends.


XO:
Ashlynn