My Daughters Self-Esteem

The other morning I was in my room getting ready for the day when Boston came in grinning ear to ear. She had picked out her own outfit that day... socks that didn't match, (they usually don't since her socks all have little animals on them and she likes to pick out two animals for her little feet), bright blue pants, with a red skirt, a pink sweater with a vest on the wrong way. This mismatched outfit was complete with a gold headband on upside down that match anything she was wearing, along with some of my makeup that she had snuck into that wasn't quite applied the way I'm sure the manufactures probably intended it to be. I was trying to hide the laugh that was getting ready to slip out when Boston excitedly told me, "look, mamma, I so pretty!" She was so proud of herself! At this point in her life when she looks in the mirror she doesn't see any flaw's, she doesn't see the chocolate of her face or the mismatched outfit... she hasn't had her confidence shrunk by the worlds expectations. 

When she sings she doesn't worry if she is on tune or if the words are the right ones. When she dances she just feels the music without caring who is watching. She cries a little bit, every time without fail, when Ursula is getting the little mermaid, without fearing that someone will think her tears are silly.

I hope that she can stay this way for as long as possible. I pray nightly that the world doesn't ruin my daughters self-esteem before she even understands what self-esteem is. My little Boston is so happy to be exactly who she is... she admires the little girl she see's in the mirror each day. She loves proudly telling me that she has 'big browns' (she has heard so many people from strangers to family tell her she has such big brown eyes), she actually thinks it's pretty darn cool when she notices that her and mamma have on matching clothes and she thinks the pictures she colors (even when they are on the living room wall) are all amazing artwork. 

I, like most adults in today's world, have had my share of negative comments towards or about me. I wish that when I am feeling less than 100% about myself I could muster up the same confidence Boston has. I compare myself to harshly to others... her hair is better, that mom is in better shape, that mom seems like more fun, that girl is smarter than I am.... ya know, just the same thing a lot of women do. She doesn't even get it but I look up to her.

As her mom it is my job to keep her feeling like she is important and protect her self-esteem as long as possible. This year for Halloween Boston wanted to be Jack Skeleton, from The Nightmare Before Christmas. I was hesitant about letting her... I mean, that's a boy character and I was positive that we might get some weird responses to her costume choice. I decided right then that now was as good of time as any to encourage her and praise her for her individuality... and she had such a fun Halloween. 

I hope she can stay like this way for as long as possible. I hope I can help stomp any doubts she has in herself before they make a permanent impact. I hope she will always feel beautiful without needing any reassurance from the mirror or from others. 

XO:
Ashlynn&Boston
BRONSON

Dancing on her way into dance class.

She was so proud of herself at her Dentist appointment on Wednesday!

The day she did my makeup was one of her favorite days... she told me I looked perfect!

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