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I have been debating if I wanted to write this for quite some time now... If I should write it.. How I should write it but I finally decided I wanted to.

The first weekend of October Boston had her visit with her 'dad. As a mother these are hard little visits for me... I mean, if you are a mom you know the feeling that you are the one who takes care of your child the best, having to entrust someone with your child for a short amount of time is hard for anyone, especially if it is someone who you are not on the best of terms with. I wrote a blog post on this the night before Boston was coming back (you can find it here) because this time the visit wasn't as hard. I was able to work a little extra, spend some time with friends in Park City and Salt Lake, catch a movie and not have a typical antagonist try to hurt me. If you were to have read that blog you will notice that not once did I mention negative things about Boston's 'dad. Over the past year there have been plenty I could have posted about but I have learned enough that A-I didn't really care and B- I don't appreciate when people who shouldn't really focus on my life and my child's post their income so I have learned to have enough respect to not do the same to them.

I was due to have her return to her home in the morning so that night I was enjoying an alone time bubble-bath when I received a pretty lengthy text from a number I didn't know. I don't need to go in to details of this text but it was full of a lot of hurtful and untrue things. I waited a minute to respond then asked who it was that was even texting me... I didn't get a response... so then I asked if it was a joke... still no response. So, then I made a decision. It may have not been the most mature decision but I made it a status update on my Facebook posting the number and asking if anyone knew who it belonged to because I had received an unkind text message from them. I was very sad about the message but also I wanted to know where it was coming from.

Here is the thing...you can call me fat, ugly, mean, lazy, stuck-up... you get the point, anything... and through experiences I have gotten pretty thick skin... But, the moment you say anthing involving my parenting or choices I have made for my daughter I am hurt by it. People began commenting on this status and finding out who it was. I even recieved one message from a stranger who saw my status in their new feed letting me know that she had a pretty negative experience close to this with this same woman. It turns out it was from someone who is a mother herself, which really hurt. Whitney, who had never met me in person, made it her point to share her feelings on my situation with me. I get some unsolicited comments and advice with having a blog and some people take advantage of the 'anonymous' option in the comment section but more times that not I can trace exactly where that comes from. She called me (I didn't answer) and sent me a message telling me that posting her number online was unkind. She also told me that if I were to take down my status she wouldn't contact me again. I let her know that she shouldn't have contacted me in the first place. From what I was told a few people contacted her that night. One being a cousin of mine, who although she said some really aggressive and unkind things that I didn't even know was being said, I am thankful for the people that could tell I had enough of having my heart hurt and they stood up for me. I cant proclaim 100% to know where this mother got my phone number from but I have been given facts from a few very trustworthy individuals on who gave it to her, also, considering who she associates with it has backed up who people tell me she got it from.

I'm not sure what kind of response I will get from posting this. I'm not asking for pity by any means. I am mostly letting people know that I truly anticipate the day when third parties will stop antagonizing events that have happened. The events that happened are ultimately between two people, Boston's 'dad and myself. No one else can tell you what happened. And even if you hear a story about things from one of us... their are two sides to the story. And, although it effects my life it really is Boston's life whose can be effected the most by this situation.

I felt somewhat liberated writing that... I have some big events coming up in my life and as a mom I will make sure to have Boston's best interest in mind. I will always be her advocate. I'm not quite sure the type of impression you may get from me as a mother just from blog but believe me when I say my child is very well taken care of, very happy, very loved and I will do anything I have to for it to remain that way. I might not parent like you do, you might not parent how I do, needless to say as long as the children we are raising are healthy and happy  we are doing it right... there should never be an excuse to disrespect that.

Boston and I have some pretty large events coming up which is going to be somewhat stressful since we have gone through so much. But after today I am feeling confident in what I will be doing for my daughter. Your prayers and positive vibes are more than welcome. 

Thank you for letting me share a pretty sad and vulnerable part of my life with you.
Thank you so much for your kind words and being a part of our journey so far.

XO:
Ashlynn&Boston
BRONSON