REAL families

I have a step dad. He is amazing. He raised me because my dad, Michael died. I introduce him as my dad. I am all for step-parents when needed and when they are respectable people, not when they are vindictive and bullies.

I have said it countless times and have steered clear from this topic for a while since I have wanted a person who try's to gain attention by hanging on my coattails to not get any more attention... Apparently at some point I need to stand up for myself.

My daughter, the child I was pregnant with, that I gave birth to, that I wake up nightly for doesn't need a "mother figure" she has one in her mom.  To even think of yourself as a mom to my child is so disrespectful to not just me but to the whole role of motherhood. I am Boston's mom, her mother-figure not only because I gave birth to her but because I have earned it. Posting a picture the first time you meet someone else's child and captioning it, "I love being a mom" isn't done out of love for the child but out of cruelty to the mother. 

I agree that Family does not always have to be blood, it can be who you are close with, who raised you, who would do so much for you. Sam, (who I post pictures with and everyone thinks we are dating) has been my friend for 12 years, he has lived with me, he was one of the first to know about Boston, he helps me with so much, he is family to me. Seeing a child for a weekend every few months does not make you their family. Changing a diaper every few months doesn't make you motherly. There are certain people I will never let be a role model to my daughter... Like I have stated countless times.. Sneaking around with someone's "father" while their mom is pregnant with them will make you a lot of things but a mom is not one of them.  To avoid misunderstandings the reason I put "dad" in quotations when referring to Boston's father is because the word dad is a fictionalized version of what he is. Biologically he surely is, but to me biologically is where it ends. I know good dads, I had two... 

Does contention never get old to some people? I get messages daily from moms whose hearts hurt for me, who are appalled at what I deal with. It's disgusting and disturbing. At the end of the day the arguments that ever have to be had should be between Boston's two parents and its actually quite sad that a bitter, jealous third party involves herself. Sadly, disfunction is all some people know. I do not hate Boston's "dad". Obviously for a time there was a lot I did like about him. If he wants to be a part of his and my child's life I welcome it but who he chose to be with is irrelevant in mine and Boston's life 99% of the time. You know how if anyone were to ever speak bad about your mom how angry you would get... Imagine the anger Boston will sadly have to feel one day, it makes me sick. 

My own mom probably won't approve of this. She always advises me to stop responding to rude, argumentative people and to take the high road. So, I apologize right now to my mom for choosing to not take the high road today, but this mamma has had enough. 

• “A little girl, asked where her home was, replied, 'Where mother is.'" -