I was at the gym on Friday and I went into the locker room after my run. Usually I have Boston to chase in the locker room so I don't get a chance to listen or join in on conversations. This was the one time she wasn't with me so I was taking my time changing when I overheard a conversation from two women close to my age. They very loudly were talking about how bad one lady looked trying to walk on the treadmill they then proceeded to mock, not so subltly, a different woman's flabby arms and lastly a woman who they said wasn't using the leg press machine correctly. I was extremely sad listening to these ladies and kept thinking to myself that they know better. Come on ladies, nowadays I feel like as a woman our bodies get judged so much by men and even more so by society that we should take the oppurtunities to build up our fellow females instead doing what we can to make them feel inferior. My body is FAR from perfect. I have a dimple on my bum... But you pointing it out to my face or behind my back isn't going to make me feel any better or your bum any closer to perfect.
This is basically me just deciding that I know I can't change the women in the locker room but I can change myself and I would rather help boost another woman's confidence than deflate it. If I see someone who has great hair, legs, eyes or anything I want to let them know that I think they look great.
I am never going to have long legs, long hair or the perfect hour glass shape. The majority of us don't look like Kate Upton but I think it's awesome that we all are so different and we should really celebrate that rather than criticize it.
My challenge to anyone, male or female, who reads this... This week work on giving a complement when you see one is due. Work on empowering people and building others confidence and it will help yours, too.
XO:
Ashlynn&Boston
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I'm just laughing at the drama she liked causing today! What is wrong with her??? You are over here telling girls to empower each other and she is trying to cause even more contention with this baby that she loves so much mom. I remember hearing a while ago she wanted to try sucker punching you and fighting you. I would watch out I'm bet she will still do it! She is mental!
ReplyDeleteSo, no joke but in the last two hours I have received almost 20 messages through my blog, text and Facebook of people (some who know her and not me) telling me how toxic and mean she is. I agree with that completely. I have my beautiful baby and I can get why she is jealous so I chose to not post any of them (let her burry herself, right?) except this one... Because in no way is violence the answer... Who says that? If she tries to "sucker punch" me I hope she doesn't try to do it in front of my daughter and I hope she is aware that because of this I will have a cop present the few times Boston, myself and mike do see each other just in case she pops out from somewhere.
DeleteThank you for the one of many heads up :(