Yesterday I received so many messages through Facebook, email and texts in response to my post and they ALL seriously meant so much! I loved everyone's opinions and it was so helpful to see so many perspectives. However, I had one person who sent me a question and asked if the thing I really thought was most desirable and attractive on a man was a tan, long hair, a man cardigan and nice teeth. To be completely honest nothing like a man in a cardigan and great teeth my make me knee's go week more but besides that I would love to clarify that the things that I have always found most attractive in people are almost always never physical. I could go back to every person I have ever had any time of history with and when someone asks me what it was that I really liked about them it would be 'his motivation'...'his work ethic'... 'his sense of humor'...'his dance moves'...'his intellect'...'his wit'..
I think this applies to a lot more than just dating. I have beautiful friends... Seriously, it can totally be intimidating and make me self-conscious at times at how a lot of the people I hang out with are gorgeous. I have a friend, Rachel, who has model looks but what I think is the most attractive about her is her ability to feel empathy for others. When Boston was still a newborn and after my mom went back after she helped me here for a month Rachel would come sleep over at mine and Boston's home to wake up with Boston during the night because she knew how tired I was. She would listen to my cry and put herself in my shoes without judgement and she helped me so much during that time. I have a friend, Brittney, who is now living in Provo and is physically just flawless. But when I describe her to people it's not her amazing looks that I rave about but I tell them how she is so caring. She is a manager for a company for people with special needs and she is so compassionate, patient and kind with them. Like I have stated before, I am a sponge person and I easily pick up on others moods and emotions. My friends being so pretty on the outside isn't what has made me love being their friend but their positive outlooks, humor, and all of their other awesome qualities is what have.
I'm totally going to quote how Katie Holmes said, "You may be pretty and you may be talented but nobody is going to remember that if you're mean." Basically, to sum of this disorganized post I just want to point out that in my opinion their are obviously certain things that I find aesthetically pleasing (the man cardi and the great teeth) but I tend to forget them quickly if you don't own certain traits that are also emotionally pleasing. Make sure you leave the right type of mark and impression for people so that if the things you did, the things you said, the thoughts you had and the jokes you told all showed up on your skin you would still be just as attractive. .... and trust me when I say this... this isn't me giving any type of sermon; their are sooooo many things I need to work on.
Since I LOVED the cool feedback I got yesterday I would seriously LOVE if you could tell me what some of the you think some of the most attractive things are?
XO:
Ashlynn&Boston
BRONSON
& this is another one of our pictures from Sunday! Lyndi, you are one talented photographer! The moon in the background and her little hand that are always playing with my hair melt my heart into a big giant puddle.
Photo courtesy of Sugar Rush Photography
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