My dad, Michael was a redhead, he was really smart and really funny. Do you know how I know these things? Because other people have told me and I have seen pictures. I wish I could tell you something about him but if my mom or sisters arn't around if you were to ask me a question I wouldn't know the answer. I was ten years old when he died, I was the one with him with he died and I don't like to talk about that experience, in fact not a lot of people have heard me talk about that experience. One thing I actually do know about him is that he loved his wife and his daughters and I know he wishes he could have watched us all grow up.
My mom remarried a while later to a man named, Kevin. My sisters and myself didn't know a lot about the new man in our lives and for my sisters it was a little bit of a different situation since they were older and wouldn't be living with him. He came into our lives subtly knowing his role and never trying to overshadow our dad. He didn't meet us and within a few minutes demand to take a picture and caption it how much he enjoyed being a dad. He has never asked that we call him dad. He has never tried to give people an untrue impression that he was going to be sealed in the temple to me. My mom has never been disrespectful to my biological dad, never writing things online with a picture of Kevin and I saying that we have an unbeatable bond, when actually we do and her caption and picture wouldn't be forced. Kevin has NEVER spoke negativly about my dad, Michael, ever. In fact something a lot of people don't know is that he makes frequent visits to my dad's grave making sure that he looks suitable out there and sometimes delivering flowers. I think I lucked out with the situation. He came into our families lives at an appropriate time, not when my mom was pregnant with me and he came into not proclaiming to be the parent and seeking attention at whatever means possible. I mean he did so much for me and still does and yet you would never see him brag online or ask for recognition for doing what he does.
Kevin is a great man, just last week he fixed one of the vans for the company I work for so that the wheelchair lift would work ensuing that the individuals there who depend on a wheelchair could be able to do activities with everyone else, he did this without even asking about being paid. He was the one that gave Boston her blessing in our church and he has been the most amazing grandpa to Boston. He is also a very humble man so I am making sure I write this while he is out of cell service so he doesn't feel embarrassed I wrote a post about him. I think because of his actions I have had really high expectations of what kind of people would come into Boston's life. Sadly, I have not been impressed and have more struggles, disrespect and heartache with it than I hoped for.
I guess with the experience comes wisdom and I will know what kind of conduct I will expect from Boston's future step-dad. I will hope that he loves her just as much as I do but at the same time I will strongly suggest that although Boston's 'dad hasn't been around in her life a lot he remembers that he is the 'dad.
Boston's 'dad, Michael, sent me this picture when he had a visit with her last. I am really hoping that things can go smoother than in the past and she enjoys him being around a bit more. I try to make it special for her when she gets ready to leave to have her visit with him and I let her know mamma used to have a lot of fun with him and she will, too. I would love nothing more than for my daughter to see her parents can have a good relationship with each other.
I have the Timehop app, it's an app that each day you open it and you see pictures, tweets, status updates or anything like that you posted on that exact day one year, two year and so on years ago. Often times, like today, I run across pictures of her 'dad and I. This one is from a family reunion he came to with me. I will admit for the first while my instinct was to just erase and get rid of them but then I think of my child. One day she will want to know about her parents, just like most kids want to know about their parents, and I am sure she will treasure these types of pictures.
I guess with this post I am just hoping that my daughter can be happy with her two parents and that life can be calm for not just her but myself as well. I am happy that I had ten years of my life with my dad, Michael and I am grateful that Kevin has been respectful of him. I was blessed when it came to the men in my life and I hope she is as well.
XO:
Ashlynn&Boston
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