The Sad Truth

I have been debating if I wanted to write this all week... as a mom my heart has been broke over this situation and I just cant hide my sadness over this any longer so I guess this is probably therapeutic for me.

To start off my dad, Michael, who passed away when I was young, had a stepfather. He was the oldest and had two younger siblings (one not even born yet) when his dad got in a terrible car accident. A while later his mom remarried and together those two had more children. I remember hearing stores about how one Christmas all of that man's kids (who is technically my step-grandpa...ps who hasn't even tried to see me in years) got brand new bikes for Christmas and my dad and his younger, full-sibling brother, got a watch. I don't remember the exact details on this story but all I could imagine is that when I get married I WILL NEVER let my spouse treat Boston in such a way.

Some events happened last week... some events that I was actually not even part of... but the person whom Boston's 'dad is married to right now sent some awful texts messages to our mutual friend. The things she sent shocked me, made me furious but more than anything made me sad.

Their is an ample more amount to this conversation between these two... such as how she can't stand her husband half of the time and how she wish he would just sign his rights over... but I left that out focusing on what nearly broke my mom heart.... hearing that my baby gives someone anxiety that they attended therapy for and that she doesn't like them around, "her girls"... It brought back memories on how my own dad must have been treated.

I have given Boston's dad some low blows just as he has to me as well. I am not perfect but hearing what a toxic enviroment my little girl has to be in when she visits her dad made my blood boil. I have spoke to my attorney about this situation and how I don't think my daughter needs to be placed in situations like that. I am not Boston's 'dad's number one fan nor is he mine but if getting to know him is best for her I work towards it. I have taken the steps I need to get legal work going. As far as what we have right now Boston can not be at his house if he is not present but I think there needs to be more specifics. 

My mom heart has hurt this week. Although she doesn't see him often I literally have been sick to my stomach on what actually goes on when she is there that is being hid on social media. It now makes ample amounts of sense on why my baby is in tears when I tell her she is going to her 'dads house. If you have any further advice you can give me to help with this case I would love it.

Thank you;

Ashlynn