The Mom debate

I feel like since women started working out of the home their has been somewhat of a debate on which is harder.... Being a "stay-at-home mom" or a "working-mom"... I really wanted to give my input on which I believe is the harder of the two but I have a problem and I can't really put myself completely in one category. Obviously, to be able to support myself and Boston I work but I only work part-time and to be completely honest sometimes she is with me at work. So, to say I know what it's like to be a full-time working mamma would be a lie. But I also don't know how it would be to be a full-time stay at home mom. I know that some days when I have to go to work I would much rather just be with Boston, cuddle in our jammies and do fun things and for those meager six (ish) hours when I am away from her I text whoever is watching her and ask for updates and pictures (I am the epitome of a helicopter parent). I also know that on the days I don't go into work by the end of the day I have drained most of my patience from toddler tantrums, cleaning and having the only form of conversations I have about Disney characters and why we don't have more ice cream in the freezer.

I have always felt that humans are predestined to be somewhat selfish, we tend to think typically about ourselves  Generally, this isn't a bad thing but just something that we all do. When we wake up in the morning we think to ourselves what we want for breakfast, we drive to work and think about our day, we contemplate what we want for a snack or drink and for lunch, we take a nap when we are tired and go to sleep when we are ready. The main point is that we subconsciously revolve around ourselves, our own wants and our own needs. 

The strangest thing happens though when you become a mother though... you are no longer the center of your own world, you relinquish that position to your child. It's no longer what you want for breakfast that pops into your mind when you wake up but what does your child want. You concern your thoughts to their happiness, even your sleep time revolves around them. Being a stay-at-home mom or a working mom doesn't mean that you don't think or do any less for your child.  I know that the moment I became a mom I also took on the title of; nurse, chef, chauffeur, teacher... along with many other titles that I didn't go to school for or get any in-depth training on... 

I have decided that more than anything I would love to hear anyone that reads this thoughts on the matter. If you could comment in the comment section at the bottom or even email me if you want it to remain private on your perspective that would be awesome. What type of mom are you? What are the pro's and what are the con's? What type of mom were you raised by? How did it effect you? When answering these PLEASE remember that this isn't anything to judge anyone or make anyone feel inferior because really, we are all moms doing the absolute best we can for our children. And if you say you are a perfect mother and your kids are perfect... props to you but I know you're lying ;)

Do me a pretty big solid and if you know a mom who is in one category or another and does an exceptional job at it send this to her so I can get her thoughts along with yours.

XO:

Ashlynn&Boston

BRONSON

“There’s no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.”